Becoming comfortable talking to people can take years of practice, but if you're like most people, learning how to communicate can be quite stressful, and because of this, you avoid social situations. The good news is that talking to people doesn't have to be scary at all. With a little hard work and motivation, you can be just as comfortable talking to potential clients and in front of groups of people as you can talking to your best friend.
IT'S ALL IN YOUR HEAD
Most of your fear and negative emotions of talking to people are not real at all. In fact, most communication barriers are made up in your head. Believe it or not, your thoughts can be your best asset or your worst enemy. This is why your arch nemesis oftentimes is yourself. Obviously, you should have learned to effectively communicate when you were younger, but if your parents didn't teach you then you will have to teach yourself. The best way to get those negative thoughts out of your head is to practice saying positive self-affirmations in the mirror every day.
- "You are smart."
- "You are successful."
- "You are happy."
- "You are the best."
TRIM THE FAT
Next, you have to trim the fat out of your life. By this, I mean that you have to make a valiant effort to get rid of all the negative people in your life. It's apparent that you can't get every negative person out of your life completely, but you definitely don't have to socialize with those people. There are multiple barriers to communication and you may not realize this but most people are negative because they're either jealous or don't believe in themselves so they try to bring you down to their level. You'd be amazed how much better your life becomes once you get all those people out of your life.
Getting the negative people out of your life significantly helps you to talk to others because you become less and less afraid that you will be ridiculed by the person you are speaking with. After years of practice each time you are confronted by the negative people, you can easily ignore their remarks and comments because you have had positive interactions with others the other 99% of the time.
THE NUTS AND BOLTS
Now that you have all the negative thoughts and negative people out of your life, communicating with others is going to become a breeze. If you're wondering how to start a conversation, then believe it or not, the very best way is to either ask the person a question about him or herself or just to say, "Hi!"
By nature, people will have their guard up when you first approach them because they don't know you or your intentions. However, if you show them that you are a nice person and that your intentions are good, they will quickly and easily open up to you.
The best way to practice talking to new people is to talk to everyone you can without the intention of wanting anything from them. For example, if you are in the live at the grocery store, make a comment to the person standing behind you about the weather. Or, if you are at a restaurant, ask the person next to you what they ordered and whether or not they would recommend it to you. See! Easy!